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Getting a grip on the problem

I really enjoy reading folks LJ posts. And I feel like I ought to be contributing my own observations, thoughts, questions and what-have-you as part of the conversation.

But when I go to put together a post, a dozen different things occur to convince me not to finish it.

Most commonly, I realize the thing I planned to write about is so trivial and unremarkable that it doesn't warrant bringing up.

Or the topic is about something that upset me - and writing about it is also upsetting. And I don't like to be upset, so I stop.

Sometimes the topic is a question so specific, and so unlikely to match my readers experience, that it feels odd to ask.

Recently there have been several cases where I really want to comment on someone else's post, but I don't feel like I'm close enough to them to make the sort of personal remarks their subject calls for.

This particular middle-of-the-night post almost foundered before it was begun, as I realized I didn't have an icon that fits my idea of "can't sleep, don't want to work". But I was strong and wrote this instead. And I'm just going to use my current default.

So, throw me a rope please, oh internet friends. Tell me what you'd like to read about, what I should push myself to write about, and I'll do my best to answer. (Answers not guaranteed to be prompt, especially since this weekend is the Emerald City Comic Con, and I'm expecting to work my butt off there.)

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msagara
May. 8th, 2008 05:47 pm (UTC)
I have exactly the same feelings a lot of the time, especially I realize the thing I planned to write about is so trivial and unremarkable that it doesn't warrant bringing up. and I really want to comment on someone else's post, but I don't feel like I'm close enough to them to make the sort of personal remarks their subject calls for. The latter occurs most on friends-locked posts, because I almost feel as if I'm reading it by accident because of the way friends & reading lists work on LJ.

If a post isn't friends-locked, I'll often respond anyway, if no one has said what I want to say yet (if they have, I don't post), because I know that I'm perfectly happy to have people respond in comments to anything I say, and I force myself to generalize.

I like LJ because it's like one big, rambling, splintering conversation. I like the long essays, the long rants, the slice-of-life glimpses and the book reviews -- but I don't expect to like everything that anyone blogs about, on any site on the web.

Because I don't expect to be entertained -- and I think that's the stress, the desire to be entertaining, and the overwhelming certainty that I'm not -- over the years I've given myself as much permission as possible to not be entertaining.

It's enormously freeing, although the fear of being, you know, irrelevant or boring, still makes me twinge from time to time, and more often than not, what I'm afraid is going to bore people to tears can start interesting conversations.
msagara
May. 8th, 2008 05:50 pm (UTC)
... and, of course, because I can't use five words when five hundred will do...

What I forgot to add was: You've mentioned that you're interested in comics and books before. I don't get out much on the web for comics or reading material (luddite -- and I do all my work at a computer, so I admit that I tend not to think of the computer as the place to read), and I'd be happy to see what your take on what you've found worthwhile or fun is. I know that other people might well be blogging/LJing about it, but actually, I don't see any of the comic blog things, and I am always, always, always interested in book opinions; I can read ten different people writing about the same book and still find it interesting.


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